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The Truth about Guilt in Relationships

You cannot feel guilty. Guilt is not an emotion; it is a fact.

Have you ever been told:

  • You should feel guilty?
  • You made someone else feel bad or hurt?
  • Someone else’s poor behavior was your fault?

These are manipulation tactics used to make you feel as though you are guilty.

If you’re in a relationship with someone using these tactics, I want you to know you’re not the only one.

You’re not the only one who:

  • Feels frustrated and like you’re not being heard
  • Understands that the other person is coming from a place of fear or wounding
  • Believes they will have an “ah-ha” moment and understand
  • Works on self-growth in order to maintain a sense of peace within
  • Blames yourself for the apparent trap you feel stuck in
  • Keeps a positive outlook even though nothing has changed despite your efforts

If you’ve been led to feel as though you’re guilty. Hear this: you’re not.

You actually don’t have that much power.

The only person you can control is yourself. Same goes for the other guy. Their experience is not your fault, nor is it your responsibility.

You are not responsible for anyone else’s:

  • Thoughts
  • Feelings
  • Words
  • Actions
  • Behaviors
  • Reactions
  • Emotions
  • Beliefs

If you find yourself feeling guilty about another person’s experience of life, you’re not alone.

More importantly, you won’t be alone when you’re ready to come out of it. In fact, you’ll be far less alone.

Women are like this. When we overcome a struggle, we turn around, reach back, and take the hand of another woman going through places we have been. It’s in our nature. You can’t take that out of women.

I have been through this very struggle, and my hand is out, ready to lift you out to join me in a life of fun, pleasure, and freedom — however that looks to you.

Let’s start a conversation. Comment below. Are you here or have you been, too?

In Love,

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